You are not behind

Many women over 40 feel like they should have “figured this out by now.” That thought can feel heavy. It can turn every meal, every mirror, every closet moment into evidence that something is wrong with you.

But your past attempts are not proof that you failed.

They are information.

Your body has changed. Your life has changed. Your stress, hormones, responsibilities, relationships, energy, and identity may all be different than they were ten or twenty years ago. So if the old rules are not working the same way, that does not mean you are broken.

It means this season needs a different kind of care.

Lasting change does not usually begin with more punishment. It begins with less shame. It begins when you can look at where you are honestly without using it as a reason to attack yourself.

You are not starting over.

You are starting with more information.

Write this sentence somewhere you can see it today:

“I am not behind. I am learning how to care for myself differently now.”

All my best,

Nicole

P.S. Join us tomorrow as we launch "Emergent Power: Midlife Women Reimagining Love, Health, and Work"! This book shares powerful stories from women in midlife (including my story "Beyond the Pointe"). If you would like a special link to purchase the book (for 99 cents only tomorrow - all proceeds go to charity) please reply back (or message me on FB https://www.facebook.com/nicole.ternay or Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nicole.ternay/ ) and let me know.

P.P.S. Also you can meet the authors LIVE on my Facebook page at 6PM EST! https://www.facebook.com/share/19X1H2BShM/